Judith "Judi" Elaine (McKee) Burns, Private User, Private, Mike Stangel - certainly a case to ignore, but nothing more than that: I guess that one of the profiles was deleted after the match message was sent.
I too prefer merges and not deletions, but sometimes they happen and sometimes they are the better solution.
Judith - if a merge would have been completed on that match before you got to it, you would get a green "merge already completed" message.
Michael - it's an authentic Geni URL, unlike a virus.
Michael, Maven - when you try to use a message link (from a mail notification) or similar URL intended to a specific Geni user, you'll be prompted to login as that user.
Here, the URLs are usable by Judith only. The login prompt does not throw you out of your account - if you ignore it and go back to previous screen, you're still in your acount. You can try one of Judith's links above.
Sincerely,
Itai Meshulam
Geni Tree Curator